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Question 1
As the conversation begins, Caleb talks to his father about his relationship with Catherine and how she is responding to The Love Dare. What emotions show in his face and his words? Discuss in your group why Caleb might feel the way he does.
Question 2
Think of a time when you tried to show love to someone, and they didn’t respond in the way you wanted. How did you feel? In what ways do you empathize with Caleb in this scene?
Question 3
Who do you think is more important to Caleb, himself or his wife? What does he say that lead you to your conclusion?
Question 4
When Caleb asks his father, “How am I supposed to show love to someone who constantly rejects me?” his father re-directs Caleb’s eyes to the cross. What is the father implying? How does the point apply to Caleb?
Discussion
*Read Romans 5:5 *
And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
Read 1 John 4:19
We love because he first loved us.
Question 5
What do these verses teach about how and why we are able to love?
Read Philippians 2:1-4
1Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
Question 6
Verses 1 and 2 of this passage are shown above. The two verses form a conditional statement that starts with “if” and continues with “then”. Read through the verses carefully. What conditions start with the word “if”? What does the passage say we need
to have in order to love others? In particular, what do we receive when we’re united with Christ? What do we need from the Holy Spirit?
Question 7
How does Caleb’s behavior in the movie contrast with verses 3 and 4 in this passage?
Question 8
Think about the father’s answer to his son. “You can’t love her because you can’t give her what you don’t have”. How does that point align with this passage? What “if” condition(s) does Caleb most need in his life in order to love his wife?
Question 9
Think about your marriage/relationship. To what degree do you try to manage the relationship using your own wisdom and abilities? What’s the result?
Read 1 John 4:7-19
7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 13This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19We love because he first loved us.
Question 10
This passage of Scripture explains how God’s love for us works in our lives. As you read through these verses, what phrases or ideas particularly touch you?
Question 11
What does verse 13 say God has given us to enable us to “live in Him?” Give some practical examples from your life of how you know God lives in you.
Close in prayer.
CLEAR
Question 1
As the conversation begins, Caleb talks to his father about his relationship with Catherine and how she is responding to The Love Dare. What emotions show in his face and his words? Discuss in your group why Caleb might feel the way he does.
Question 2
Think of a time when you tried to show love to someone, and they didn’t respond in the way you wanted. How did you feel? In what ways do you empathize with Caleb in this scene?
Question 3
Who do you think is more important to Caleb, himself or his wife? What does he say that lead you to your conclusion?
Question 4
When Caleb asks his father, “How am I supposed to show love to someone who constantly rejects me?” his father re-directs Caleb’s eyes to the cross. What is the father implying? How does the point apply to Caleb?
Discussion
*Read Romans 5:5 *
And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
Read 1 John 4:19
We love because he first loved us.
Question 5
What do these verses teach about how and why we are able to love?
Read Philippians 2:1-4
1Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
Question 6
Verses 1 and 2 of this passage are shown above. The two verses form a conditional statement that starts with “if” and continues with “then”. Read through the verses carefully. What conditions start with the word “if”? What does the passage say we need
to have in order to love others? In particular, what do we receive when we’re united with Christ? What do we need from the Holy Spirit?
Question 7
How does Caleb’s behavior in the movie contrast with verses 3 and 4 in this passage?
Question 8
Think about the father’s answer to his son. “You can’t love her because you can’t give her what you don’t have”. How does that point align with this passage? What “if” condition(s) does Caleb most need in his life in order to love his wife?
Question 9
Think about your marriage/relationship. To what degree do you try to manage the relationship using your own wisdom and abilities? What’s the result?
Read 1 John 4:7-19
7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 13This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19We love because he first loved us.
Question 10
This passage of Scripture explains how God’s love for us works in our lives. As you read through these verses, what phrases or ideas particularly touch you?
Question 11
What does verse 13 say God has given us to enable us to “live in Him?” Give some practical examples from your life of how you know God lives in you.
Close in prayer.
CLEAR